I’ve been dating a person for almost 3 months, and he is terrific and lovely. I know we’re both currently not seeing anyone else. I’m at the point where I would like to have a low-stress check-in about how we’re both feeling regarding exclusivity and commitment.Sometimes breaking the ice is all it takes to get a geek to break out of their shell and become comfortable with the situation they are in. Tips for dating the: Mind you this is an incredibly short list of the possible geeky realms, only the ones that I (and my husband Geek Dad Brian Mc Laughlin) are personally familiar with.
My general impression is that he’s interested in a relationship, but ‘impressions’ are not hard evidence and I just want to address it explicitly without my inner FEELINGS-VORTEX getting in the way.
I’m really struggling to find the right words to initiate this conversation, because everything that pops into my head has strong overtones of “PLEASE LOVE ME FOREVER” and “I’m putting all my hopes and dreams on you despite only having known you for 10 weeks or so”…
The most important point of all is that not every girl is after them since they aren't the typical handsome jock, so it's unlikely you'll be faced with much competition, and even more unlikely anyone is going to try to steal him from you.
Not-So-Right-At-All, why not consider that shy guy in that little nook who is currently so engrossed in his computer screen he's oblivious to the world around him? Why Geeky Guys are Great They may not be the captain of the basketball team that most girls are after, but there are a thousand and one reasons why ladies should go for a geek.
It's like a man telling a stunning woman how beautiful she is. Now, genuinely praise her for some other ability, and she's listening hard! You don't need to share his love of Star Trek, but never (ever ever) diss Leonard Nimoy.
Laughing at Sheldon's crazy quirks is fun so long as he's on TV, but not if you're dating him IRL.
It could be because geeks are making significant impact in a world that is becoming increasingly reliant on information technology.
The world has changed; and so will the view we have towards geeks in general. Well, they have an eccentric devotion to a particular interest (the most common one now would be tech) and that’s one of the nicer definitions.
and those are NOT the kinds of conversations I want to have.
They’re definitely not representative of how I actually feel – it’s just that my anxious-attachment mechanism kicks into overdrive at the very thought of addressing it and everything starts to feel like much higher stakes than it really is.
By the 80's the nerd was becoming more defined, but no less disdained: The rise of tech billionaires, and TBBT, have brought nerds to the brink of coolness.