It seemed like the perfect idea: date an already-close friend. Initially, the problems stemmed from the slow-burn of our relationship and the fact that we never really sat down and defined what we were doing. The unhappy ending to the story is that both of us lost friends over it.The trust is already there, you already have the structures and habits in place for hanging out together, and adding sex into the mix is just a bonus. Of our mutual friends, there was a clear delineation of who stuck with him versus me, and there has been little to no crossing of the aisle." —Meg, 27"A different side of him came out""After just a couple of months, he seemed to become a different person from the friend I'd known for so long.
I blocked him on social media and email, and it's now been five-plus years since we had any communication." —Chelsea, 37"The sex was awful""When we finally hooked up, the sex was that I could barely stand to look him in the face.
I tried to break it off—without mentioning the reason why—and over the next week or so he reached out to me with several desperate text messages, saying that he thought we 'had something real' and didn't understand what had gone so wrong.
He became incredibly possessive, wanted to know where I was at all times, and discouraged me from leaving the house without him. Over the course of a few months, I tried to improve things and even suggested counseling, but those attempts only made things worse, and he escalated to hacking into my email to read the messages I was sending to my best friend, in which I detailed my concerns and fear about his behavior.
He went into a rage, accused me of betraying his trust by confiding in her (hundreds of miles away), and told me to leave.
I like smart women," then you're exactly the type of dude we're talking about. In one experiment, the men took an intelligence test and then were told about a woman down the hall who had taken the same test and scored either higher or lower.
The study, a joint effort by the University at Buffalo, California Lutheran University and the University of Texas at Austin, seems to show that while 86 percent of men say they have no problem dating a woman with higher intelligence, that's straight B. The men were then asked how interested they were in meeting her.
She was attracted by his profile, which made him seem smart, thoughtful and interesting.
He liked how she looked in her photos, and also thought she sounded fun, interesting, and smart.
There are far more women over 50 online than men, and making it more difficult is that many guys over 50 date like a kid in a candy store with a pocketful of change who wants to taste every flavor.
While women have a tougher time dating online there are too many success stories to ignore.
In this situation, the men wanted to meet and possibly date this hypothetical woman they'd never seen, regardless of whether she scored a higher intelligence than them.