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Talking to many women like her, it’s intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren’t ready.
American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. I see a poetic yet depressing symmetry in this: the women who rejected the introverted, budding alpha in their 20s now seek them in their 30s—but can’t have them because they’re dating younger, more attractive versions of themselves. Courtship really is a petri dish of evolutionary psychology.
I finally realized that being purposeful in a dating relationship is not only a great way to avoid unnecessary heartache, but also to find someone who is serious about the right things. Purity Through mistakes I had made in my twenties, I learned that any physicality had the tendency to distract me from seeking to genuinely get to know the other person.
When I first started reading and eventually writing for Girls Chase, one of the things that always surprised me was when writers gave their perspective on dating women who were in their late 20s and 30s, and how different it was from dating women who were in their early 20s.
The power is entirely in the girls’ hands – but at least you lose the pressure of coming up with a dazzling opener. All I have to do is swipe on women I'm attracted to and find interesting and eventually some of them message me.
It takes out all of your carefully crafted openers that never get responses from matches that swiped right on you in a drunken stupor or are just looking for validation and not a date.Although these characteristics are certainly not wrong to desire, I pursued them more than I pursued what God values in a life partner.I was drawn to a woman who could spike a volleyball more than a woman who loved Jesus.In my thirties, I realized that her character was far more important than her knowledge of my favorite NFL team.Proverbs talks of how a woman who fears the Lord — who puts Jesus first in her life — is the one to be desired.I look forward to a time when such games will no longer be necessary. It’s about evolution, how it affects culture, and how that can be quite interesting and cruel.