This approach has many advantages; you can learn more about someone within 10 minutes of meeting them than you would in hours of carefully constructed emails.This is also a good approach for people who aren’t very confident expressing themselves in writing.Now, it’s time to actually link up with “the one”—or one of the ones—beyond the digital realm and in reality.
So you’ve found a match that you’re interested in and the feeling is mutual but now what do you do?
Meeting in person is the crucial next step but how long should you wait before you suggest or agree to it? It’s exciting to see a new email from a love interest; you can read their romantic messages over and over again, reading between the lines and developing all sorts of fantasy scenarios in your head.
It’s fun, but it doesn’t become ‘real’ until you’ve met in person and found out if there’s a spark between you. A number of factors will affect how long you wait and each situation will be unique, Some people like to meet matches as soon as possible, especially if they’re local.
This can be done very safely if you choose a daytime meeting in a busy local cafe and arrange to have a quick coffee together to decide if you’d like to get to know each other better.
Do Your Homework For every prospect you meet online, you’ll need to do a little research.
Read the profile of your potential dates carefully. Look for any potential red flags, like no employment, limited relationships with their kids or just being separated vs. Ask for a selfie taken in real time so you know what they actually look like.
To have the best possible time, while preserving your physical and mental wellbeing, read on.
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“I thought by taking my time and moving cautiously with potential online dates, I was a step ahead of the game.